Tgirls - Transgender Tips For The Woman Inside

Question: I'm str8 but been curious about tgirls?

(Posted by: jhiieri on 2007-06-02 00:53:39)

A few years ago I became very good internet friends with a transgendered woman. We chatted for about a year and got real close. Close enough to make me think about dating her if we lived closer. Do you think it's just a fantasy, or anything more? I am not attracted to guys in dresses... But she was nothing like that... she was pretty, proper, and elegant... She did not remind me of a man at all

Posted by: opheliaissaved on 2007-06-02, 00:57:16

In modern society gender lines are blurred. Do what makes you feel happy and turns you on. If this tgirl really feels like a woman (and doesn't just do it when it suits her) she is truly transgendered and affiliates more with being a woman than a man. Go for your heart. People are people. Love is love.

Posted by: stephen z on 2007-06-02, 00:57:36

U need to go straight to a mosque & ask forgiveness of yr evil,evil thoughts !

Posted by: uknowme on 2007-06-02, 00:57:42

Don't experiment. Either you are straight or not. Experimenting w/ something new just to try it will hurt the other person who knows their orientation and that's not fair.

Posted by: blondebeautycm on 2007-06-02, 00:58:55

Absolutely. I question my sexuality all the time. Girls seem more gentle, understanding, and clean , and somewhat more attractive than men to me. I don't feel this way about all females, so that leaves me to the wonder of, well am i bi or straight or what here!? But, only select few i would consider dating. Everyone is curious about their sexuality. The only difference really between a male and female is their sex organs. So, I dont pay much attention to gender. Females have many things that would attract anyone to them. It could be a fantasy, but you could really care about this person, and i wouldnt let a thing like gender get in the way of this. But, nope , i am not attracted to guys in dresses either. Its just some females i do share more interests in and am attracted to. So , go ahead and be curious.

Posted by: the old dog on 2007-06-02, 00:59:54

Check the oestrogen levels, along with the ovaries, uterus, and the amount of eggs in the womb. Perhaps the lack of these aspects would remind you what a woman is. Also see if you can find the testosterone levels as well, that might help you in your decisions too.

Posted by: BumpThis on 2007-06-02, 01:00:48

When you keep desiring the sin it soon becomes fertile. 1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be misled, Bad Associations spoil useful habits.

Posted by: Macgor on 2007-06-02, 01:14:00

Here's a news flash for everyone. Transsexual women are women. Period. They spent a lot of their life trapped in a male body. If this woman is straight (and that means attracted to men) then there would be nothing wrong with dating. You already know she is transsexual and that's a bonus given your response to her. I'm a straight transsexual male. I have dated women who know and some who did not until I told them, because it's important to me to let them know if it's serious. The point is that transsexuals are people who are born into the wrong body. They are not freaks. You are attracted to the woman she is now and the woman she was inside before. That should be an easy concept, but too many people cannot get their heads around it because of their own misconceptions and stereotypes. That's too bad.

Posted by: Lou C on 2007-06-02, 01:46:12

"I'm not attracted to guys in dresses.. But she was nothing like that. " ... Your point is made right there. Guys in dresses are cross-dressers / transvestites, etc. A transexual / transgendered woman has been from birth a "female " in mind, heart and spirit. Science has recently started to identify gender dysphoria and what makes the body do one thing when all else that makes a person "themselves " another. Don't start worrying about being straight and liking "t-girls " ... care about each and every person for who she / he is inside and you can't go wrong. If you start to categorize ..you'll go mad.

Posted by: DJ or King_Of_Death(gunz) 2 on 2007-06-02, 01:49:42

Congradulations on your new friend = ) . i for one am gay but it sounds like you might be bi but then again i'm not 100% clear with the transgendered thing . if its a woman acting like a guy , then ur str8 and safe . if it's the other way arround , then ur gay or bi . if u like "her " it it is a girl , ur normal . maby you just feel better talking to her then you like her because she reminds you of your same sex but no that dosnt make you gay . whatever you decide to do , good luck = )

Posted by: bi_tgrl on 2007-06-02, 04:54:05

I'll make this as simple as I possibly can. You are attracted to a woman....Period. Most tgrls are femme. I myself am tomboyish in my normal daily life, but that's me. Each and every transperson is an individual the same as every non transperson. The whole reason she doesn't remind you of a man or man in a dress is because she is not that at all. Listen...life is short. It's way too short with too much crud to worry about what chromosomes a person carries, or how their hypothalmus will look in a brain autopsy. If you find someone, anyone, that you connect with then you owe it to both of you to see what could happen. Go into it positive and give it your honest best shot. halfway will just hurt both of you. That goes for ANY relationship. Don't worry about the whole social thing. The vast majority of transpersons pass without notice and nobody will likely ever know unless they are told. It sounds to me like all this is, is that you met a great person you connected with and became attracted to them. It happens all the time and there is nothing wrong with that. Just keep an open mind like you have to this point and if the opportunity with someone you are attracted to presents itself again go with it and enjoy each other. Life is meant to be lived and enjoyed, not spent in doubt wondering what could have been. I just had to add something. I am a TS. Fully done and all that, never have a problem passing. However I do not take umbrage to being included along with others under the umbrella of TG. It doesn't bother me a second of the day. Wasted energy over a term. Furthermore I didn't ever care to destroy all evidence of my past. I understand there are many who do, but in a way I think it's kinda sad to do that. I accomplished much in my previous incarnation which I am quite proud of and feel no reason to hide that away. I don't even care when my friends still have old pictures of us with me in them from before transition on display. I never hid the fact of what I was doing when going into transition, I still don't mind discussing it with anyone. I think it's important to have people that are out about the whole process to show others that we are in fact regular people, not the stereotypical misconceptions many carry. Granted I don't run around introducing myself to people as "Hi I am Mandy and I was born physically male " but it takes more work to run through life than stroll through it. It seems like so much wasted energy to hide. But we are all different. If that is what some people need and want, good for them and good luck, but not all of us are like that. Nothing under the sun wrong with doing that. It just seems to me however that the more we try to hide, the more the myths about us grow. But that's just my opinion and I could be wrong.

Posted by: kay b on 2007-06-02, 05:13:45

BEAUTY COMES FROM THE PERSON WITHIN. NO MATTER WHAT SEX THEY ARE IF THEY MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD & YOU WHAT TO BE WITH THEM THEN DO IT AND HAVE NO REGRETS GOOD LUCK

Posted by: Anonymous girl on 2007-06-02, 09:48:58

A transsexual (one who fully transitions and needs surgery) *is* a woman. Most transgenders, on the other hand, are men in dresses or something other than women. TSs are are not "gender variant, " and are part of the mainstream community. TGs *are* gender variant (something other than fully man or fully woman inside) and are part of the LGBT community. I consider the term TG to be an insult against true-TSs who transition all the way, get surgery, and seek to assimilate into mainstream culture, without ever once being a part of the TG community. Personally, I'm a part of the TS-Specific community and stand against the TG community, so please don't assume that everyone you see that you think was born male but that lives/ dresses as a woman is a man in a dress or otherwise transgendered. Some are born with a birth defect of having the wrong parts below, who hate them, and need them gone. They are transsexuals. So does this person have a penis and wants to keep it (TG) or does she hate it and everything else about masculinity (TS)? The test for homosexuality/ bisexuality is simple. Are you attracted to a being that has male parts (and not getting rid of them) or not? Now, why do you know that she is a transsexual woman or even a "transgendered " man? Were you rude enough to ask? Did she hate herself so much as to sabotage her own transition by going around and telling people? The whole reason to transition is to destroy all the evidences of the past so that everyone will treat you exactly as a born woman. I wish you had never known this about her, and you would not be questioning yourself. As for whether it is a fantasy, ask yourself why you want to be with her. Are you merely curious and want to exploit her to satisfy your curiosity? Or is it because you think of her as a born female and feel for her the same way as you would any other woman? What do you hope to gain from being with her? What does she stand to gain from you being with her?