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Question: How come everytime i ask this question it gets removed. i am asking the transgendered community?

(Posted by: sookiesookie on 2008-10-09 06:36:45)

What makes people have sex changes Why do you feel the need. I am not being abusive i s was a lesbian 14 years i was raised by drag queens. but i always wondered what makes you decide to take the drastic steps to change ur gender. everytime i ask this question(3rd time now) some one reports abuse and they remove it. i think ur silly to because i am sure i am not the only one who wonders. this the bisexual. transgendered gay and lesbian spot. so answer me what clicks in ur head to take such drastic measures i am interested just one answer with out some idiot reporting abuse. with the racist and gay bashing questions i have seen on here give me a break love all of u who answered just interested had to know. i know that feeling like you r in the wrong body has to drive them mad. but God is good maybe they should understand that he created us in his image and should appreciate their life he would never leave or forsake them. i pray for them cause i think that is the devil working hard on them. they should pray

Posted by: Diane on 2008-10-10, 03:24:00

Would you ask someone with diabetes why they feel the need to take insulin? Would you ask someone born with a harelip what makes them have it corrected? Or would you suggest that they 'appreciate the way God made them' and should pray? Transsexualism is a congenital neurological condition; it's distressing, debilitating and often fatal. 'sex change'[sic] is the only effective medical treatment for this condition; why would you deny it to those who need it? There's an eloquent article here that explains transition rather well; mountainpridemedia.org/ oitm/ issues/ 2004/ 08aug2004/ views01_burke.htm

Posted by: Tommy M on 2008-10-09, 06:40:06

Dont feel bad I get answers removed that I think are fair and balanced

Posted by: * on 2008-10-09, 06:40:28

People who want to have a sex change tend to feel they're in the wrong body. They feel like the other sex.

Posted by: cindoggie on 2008-10-09, 06:41:09

I've tried asking the same question like 4 times now & it still hasn't posted!

Posted by: Rusty on 2008-10-09, 06:42:12

I don't think there is a universal answer for your question since it is a choice an individual makes for their own personal feelings. Maybe someone who has actually had a sex change will give you their reasons.

Posted by: Tekedo on 2008-10-09, 06:42:22

Well, i would never do this, so i dont blame you for disregarding my answer, but, i think it is some what of their idials, they have a disire and they will try and do anything to get that. (in this case a sex change) and an a side note... im suprized this Q has been reported, its a legit Q.

Posted by: victimless criminal on 2008-10-09, 06:42:36

Because their sex on the outside is wrong compared to their gender. So they change it so it is the same as their gender. I can't imagine how bad it would feel to have the wrong sex on the outside.

Posted by: hmmm on 2008-10-09, 06:43:31

They feel like there in the wrong body like a man in a womans body or a woman in a mans body and they dont feel comfortable as they are or there just not happy so they decide to change it well thats what i think im not transgendered so i duno really

Posted by: girlpower on 2008-10-09, 06:44:24

I don't understand either why "they " would remove this question or someone reporting abuse. I can see by your question that you are honestly seeking answers for this question. the only reason I see people wanting to change their gender is the obvious thing that they don't like who they are.. they think they were born the wrong gender and so they change. it sounds that maybe you are doing some soul searching? idk. but I would advice you to do more research on this, pray (if you believe in God), talk to the people who raised you (if you are in good terms) or a trusted adult. I wish you all the luck.

Posted by: moi on 2008-10-09, 06:44:57

Because they do not feel comfortable being male/ female. As males they feel this need to be femine, sensitive or whatever. but no matter how hard they try they just cant reach that level! They wear make-up, girls clothes and etc. but nothing can full-fill this need in them to full be what they want to be. This is why some gay males have femine attitude....while others merely feel the desire and love for males As for females they feel a strong need to be manly. with this needs male/ female they acttually express themselves physically... gays cant control their high voices and lesbians cant control their butch voices. Whether it's internal or external things that make people want to explore these feelings they push themselves deeper into the other gender....most of them stop when their get to a certain level...but others cant stop until they just feel this deep deep need to change their sex to fulfil this need. some times NOTHING even changes...they become female and their hair and make-up and everything is the same...but they just feel this completion in them

Posted by: Witty B on 2008-10-09, 06:46:37

Read this and see if it helps... en.wikipedia.org/ wiki/ Gender_identity en.wikipedia.org/ wiki/ Gender_identity_disorder

Posted by: Megan on 2008-10-09, 06:50:13

My brother (who was previously a sister) is going through this now, however the person doesn't have to go through a complete physical change, it is more psychological then anything else. He is currently on hormone drugs to have a deeper voice, etc. However he does not plan on going through a complete physical change, since woman to man changes usually don't work too well. He will only get a mastectomy (removal of the breasts). Basically it's completely psychological.

Posted by: mtfradgal on 2008-10-09, 06:53:50

It's all about identity. Remember when you were 13 and realized you were lesbian? Well many of us went through a similar process of discovery, only about our gender identity. Some people KNOW from any early age that they were born transsexual and some of us, the majority I think, took a little longer to figure it out. My life was full of pain and confusion for the longest time. I thought I was a bad person or maybe even some kind of deviant because of the feelings I had. Finally I hit the wall, the point where I just couldn't do it anymore! I spent so much of my life trying to be what I was supposed to be, living up to others expectations that it almost killed me. Now that transition is over all that is past history. I feel like I fit in now. People see the real me now and I am soooooo happy! After I post this I will edit it to add a primer on transsexuality. To others: It's about a lot more than just the body! It's also about how people see you and treat you as well. Transition not only fixed my body, but also fixed the way society sees me and how people treat me. Everybody says they treat men and women the same, but it's just not true. And it's very, very hard trying to be something you're not. Original poster: Imagine having to pretend you were straight for your entire life? Well take that pain and raise it by a factor of 10. Transsexuality 101 What is a transsexual? For simplicity, a transsexual is a person whose inner sense of gender identity and brain patterns are completely the opposite of what physical form they are born into. This is a recognized medical condition which is completely unrelated to sexuality or sexual preference at all, but unfortunately society sees only brazen gay and bisexual people out there using gender bending to express their sexuality and assumes this is what transsexuals are too. A real transsexual has no more in common with a drag queen, gay or bisexual person than they do with a chimpanzee! They have a deep basic incongruity between their inner identity and their physical form which can only best be expressed as something which is within their very soul. Transsexuality occurs in equal numbers across born male and born female people. Estimates are that approximately 1 in 30,000 people are born with the condition. How does this happen? There are many things known today through years of research, though no one single absolute cause has been quantified as of yet. It is almost universally believed that during the formation of the fetus in utero, a hormonal imbalance affects the development of the body sex characteristics in a way that is misaligned with the core gender brain wiring. The brain "gender identity " is determined very early on in the fetal growth process, though the messages of an incorrect hormone balance sent to the developing fetus’ body, redirects the "intended " natural development to the wrong physical gender. Once born, while growing up the body’s own hormone generators then further the physical discrepancy - especially once puberty arrives. Unique chormosonal or genetic influences are also possible contributing factors that are being researched as additional contributing components to the phenomenon. It is very important to understand that no two things in nature are alike - there is no black and white bipolar scheme in life, and random types of birth development happen in all species, including transsexuality. Much more common birth development variations include Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome , Klinefelter Syndrome , being Intersexed , or Gender Mosaic. Transsexuality is not hereditary, and a person cannot not just "become " transsexual one day. As an extremely complex birth condition the situation is simply a variable in nature and there is nothing and no one to blame. It can actually be a very enlightening, even religious experience about the nature of the universe and humanity far beyond simple primative bi-polar sociological models. Most transsexuals are acutely aware of something feeling incorrect from a very early age but lack the ability to approach the issue. Transsexuality is not contagious, a "demon " or a cult into which someone can be enticed into - one cannot "catch " it, or turn into it...one is simply born transsexual. It occurs across all races, socioeconomic classes, religions, and childhood family upbringings, and has been documented throughout history for thousands of years...many cultures even have revered or worshipped them for having extraordinary vision and wisdom. Transsexuals are actually very good, intelligent, family loving people who are valuable, creative and productive members of society when given the opportunity to flourish without oppression. How could someone want "that " surgery? The person with transsexuality eventually must learn to accept their situation if they are to survive happily in self congruity, and not be rendered incapacitated by depression and other co-morbid mental health problems out of frustration and despair. They often have worked very hard at being everything they could for everyone else but no matter how hard they try, they always come up feeling empty and unfulfilled because they are still not whole. These feelings magnify over time until eventually the individual is overwhelmed in dysphoria. They may have tried to live in a role and style that is incongruous for a long, long time until it finally becomes unbearable… this can become a critical life threatening time for the transsexual. To simply try to even live in some sort of duality or "alternative lifestyle " without true physical and social alignment is to just continue the intolerable hypocrisy of a masquerade in a different form, still being something they are not. The ultimate goal is to be truthful and completely real unto themselves as their true gender identity dictates. The only real option left then becomes the social process of transitioning to their correct gender and also the medical process of hormone therapy and surgery. Physical pain and expenses become completely insignificant in comparison to the prospects of having to endure living life in a false way any longer. The Life Experience of a Transsexual. A person with transsexuality will almost always go through many devastating and long stages of fear, guilt, anger, shame, self loathing and emotional distress throughout their life as a result of the incongruity. They know that they will also likely face fear, hatred, prejudice, violence and rejection – sometimes even from those they may love or respect most. No one wants or chooses to have this happen to them, so as a result transsexuals typically live seriously disrupted lives tangled in deep inner emotional conflict. They must go through a very long difficult process of getting beyond their internalized conflicts and societal pressures by learning to finally accept that this is just who they are, and these are the cards they have been dealt in life. It is then that they realize they must play it out to the best of their ability to achieve congruity, for their own health and well being. Often those with transsexuality will attempt almost anything in the world to avoid facing their fears and unavoidable situation, including super-human macho activities or careers, marriage, family, extreme creative endeavors or even turn to religion, drugs or alcohol to escape. Sooner or later though, if they have survived this far they will find that these things did not work and they must face yet another even greater battle with their transsexual "demon ". The fear of facing the issue can instill an emotional paralysis that can be difficult if not impossible to shake. It is then that they must seek professional assistance to gain some kind of movement in their situation. There is an immense amount of deep inner personal work ahead for someone who reaches this point, many unfortunately, never make it. If they do, they come to realize that the "demon " was an internally fabricated myth woven out of fear of change, emotion, insecurity and social pressure - It was never even really there at all. As US President F.D.Roosevelt. put it - "the only thing we have to fear is fear itself—nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts " The Final Freedom. Once the transsexual person has overcome their fears, guilt and shame and accepted themselves and learned to feel self worth, happiness and inner pride, with proper guidance they will move forward through transition and on to establish new lives in the properly aligned role. The period of time can be short sometimes for very young transsexuals who can't find coping skills in life or are less affected by social "role " pressures to conform to - or it can take years, even decades to unfold. The path can be a treacherous, painful, expensive, lonely and emotional one but it can be done successfully with the highly rewarding end result of rising above the flames of their torment and dysphoria like a Phoenix from the ashes. To just feel "normal " is something almost everyone takes for granted in life - For the person afflicted with transsexuality, it is the Holy Grail. Once an individual passes through the processes involved, wholeness of being is achieved and the person can transcend their past medical condition and live a balanced, normal life. Source: dazzled.com/ igirl/ ts101.htm (link no longer active)

Posted by: Lee on 2008-10-09, 06:59:37

Well, i am transgender. i was born in a female body, however everything inside me feels i should be male. i don't know how much a person can understand about it if they have not felt it. but look at it this way... you're a girl, right? imagine you were born with male genitals, but your mind was the same your's is now. it wouldn't feel right would it? that's how people like me feel. most people take for granted the fact that their physical sex matches their internal gender. to understand, put yourself in our shoes. all we want is to be comfortable with ourselves and with our body and with how other people see us. we want to escape from the 'cage' of our bodies and become who we truly are on the inside. this is why trans people choose to change. we're not really 'changing'... we're becoming who we really are.

Posted by: shark on 2008-10-09, 07:10:27

Cos they dont feel confortable in the body they are in

Posted by: Dizzy on 2008-10-09, 07:23:04

I'm transsexual and I'm not really pressured to get a sex-change because I'm sort of happy where I am, I think some want sex-changes because it makes them feel complete or more of a woman although technically it doesn't. It's about your brain-sex, and sometimes your brain-sex doesn't matches with your body-sex. I knew I was a girl when I was around 4. There is a big difference between a drag-queen and a transsexual. anyone can be a dragqueen/ dragking or female/ male impersonate/ illusionist, but to be born a transsexual means you were born with the mind/ brain of the opposite sex. transsexual is a condition where people want to live as a member of the opposite sex, and creates many psychological problems when they are forced to live as "themselves. " People who are transsexual feel uncomfortable in their bodies, they are in mind/ spirit just as woman as the next. how would you feel if you woke up next morning as the opposite sex, a regular straight man?